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How to Deal with Conflicts Between Friends

Hey there! My name is Lily, and I'm a 5th grader at Oakwood Elementary School. I want to share some advice on how to deal with conflicts between friends because it's something that happens to all of us kids.

Friends are awesome - they make school fun, you can play together at recess, and it's nice to have people who understand you. But even best friends don't always get along. Sometimes you disagree, sometimes you get mad at each other, and sometimes there are misunderstandings that cause conflicts. I've had my fair share of friend troubles over the years. Once, my best friend Emma and I got into a huge fight because I thought she was making fun of my drawing during art class. Another time, my friend group couldn't agree on what game to play at recess, and we ended up not playing anything because we were too busy arguing. Just last month, there was drama because a few friends thought another friend was cheating during our math test.

Conflicts like these can be really upsetting, especially when they're with your closest friends. You might feel angry, hurt, sad,

or left out. It's no fun at all! But I've learned that there are good ways and bad ways to deal with conflicts between friends.

The bad way is to get really mad and yell at your friends, say mean things, or give them the silent treatment. That might make you feel better for a little bit, but it usually makes the conflict even worse. Another bad way to deal with conflicts is to go tell the teacher or a parent right away and try to get your friends in trouble. Most friend conflicts can be solved between yourselves if you use the right approach.

So what is the right approach? First, you have to CALM DOWN before you try to solve the problem. If you're still really mad and heated, you'll probably just end up shouting and saying things you don't mean. Take some deep breaths, walk around a bit, or play outside for a while until you've chilled out.

Once you're calmer, you need to TALK to your friend about what's bothering you. But you have to do it in a respectful way - no name-calling, no blaming, no aggression. Use \"I\" statements to explain how you're feeling, like \"I felt really hurt when you laughed at my drawing.\" Let your friend explain their side too without interrupting.

The next step is to LISTEN carefully to what your friend has to say. Maybe it was just a misunderstanding and they didn't

mean to upset you. Or maybe they have a completely different perspective that you haven't thought about. Being a good listener is key to solving conflicts.

After you've both had a chance to share how you're feeling, it's time to try to COMPROMISE. That means you both have to be willing to meet halfway. Maybe you can apologize for overreacting, while your friend apologizes for hurting your feelings originally. Or you can take turns deciding what games to play at recess. The point is, you both have to be flexible instead of insisting you're 100% right.

If you've tried talking, listening, and compromising but still can't resolve the conflict, you may need to take a BREAK from each other for a little while. Sometimes, you just need a cooling off period before you can make up and be friends again. But don't ghost your friend or give them the silent treatment on purpose - that's mean. Just say something like \"I think we both need some time to think before we can solve this.\"

I've found that using this approach - calming down, talking respectfully, listening, compromising, and taking breaks if needed - has really helped me work through conflicts with my friends in a drama-free way. We inevitably get over the argument, no one holds resentments, and we can go back to being buddies.

Of course, there are some times when you just can't work out the conflict on your own. If your friend has seriously wronged you in a big way, like stealing from you, bullying you, or purposely leaving you out over and over, you may need to get parents or teachers involved to help mediate. But for most friend conflicts, you can handle it yourselves by communicating and cooperating.

Friendships are never going to be 100% perfect and conflict-free, and that's okay! Even adult best friends get into fights sometimes. The important thing is that you have strategies to work through the conflicts in a healthy, respectful way so they don't damage your friendship in the long run.

So next time you're mad at a friend, take a deep breath, talk it out calmly, listen, and try to find a compromise. Solving conflicts may not be easy, but it's an important skill to learn. With a little patience and a lot of kindness, you can get through any drama with your besties. Just remember, making up after a fight and saving your friendship always feels way better than staying angry! Your friends are too important to lose over arguments and misunderstandings.